Unrevealed

 A person lives his entire life and stands in the world with dignity. "A person lives a face, a tree lives a skin", the ancients made a good image metaphor for dignity very early. Everyone has his own dignity, and human dignity is sacred and inviolable.

In the modern society of freedom of speech, people also have a taboo mentality, and there are "forbidden areas" that they cannot mention in their interactions with others. We often say that dwarves are not short in front of them, and Dong Shi is not ugly in front of them. Avoid others' shortcomings and privacy as much as possible. Taboo is not only a matter of skill in dealing with others, but also a matter of compassion and compassion. To respect others is to respect oneself. Keep your word for yourself, and at the same time avoid "misfortune comes out of your mouth."

The ancients said: "Swearing does not reveal the shortcomings." No matter what the situation, you must learn to keep your word. Take care of your tongue. As the saying goes: "A person who is not a sage, who can be blameless?" A person who has no fault at all is not found in the world. Regarding other people's shortcomings and deficiencies, even if they are uncomfortable, don't talk about them. Especially the privacy of others, don't spread it everywhere.

Master Yin Guang said: "Sitting and thinking is over, and chatting is not about people." Master Hongyi once said: "I think about my own mistakes every day, and there is still time to criticize others for right and wrong?" But now some people don't. In this way, they especially like to talk right and wrong, see a little bit, hear a little bit, and quickly add to the spread. Even when swearing, he deliberately exposes some privacy and flaws, and hurts others completely. This is very unkind behavior.

Everyone has different growth experiences, and all have their own flaws and weaknesses. Maybe they are physical, or they may be hidden deep in their hearts. These are the "scars" they don't want to mention. They try to hide and avoid problems in life. Being hit in a sore spot is not a pleasant thing for anyone. Especially the defects of others, must not be attacked with insulting words. Talking about people's privacy and exposing their shortcomings are all things that disrespect people.

The key to the good and evil of language lies in the heart, what you think in your heart, you will say what you say in your mouth. Master Hanshan also said in the "Awakening the World Song": "Xiu will be ambiguous, and don't let others go wrong." This is the way of the ancients, and we should learn from it. Nowadays, when many people talk about the faults of others, they get excited, and even add fuel and jealousy, reverse the black and white, and then pass on ten or ten, which hurts others greatly. Too much comment on others, saying people are right and wrong, not only hurts oneself. Virtue will also result in grudges with others, and misfortune extends to the body.

Regardless of the situation, it is an infuriating thing for anyone to be criticized by others about one's own privacy and shortcomings. Especially the defects of others, must not be attacked with insulting language.

In life, we don't want to expose people's shortcomings, let alone tell others' pain points. Other people’s defects, family misfortunes, or other shortcomings are already very painful and can’t make it worse; don’t "open which pot does not open which pot", otherwise, if it hurts others, don’t talk about it, maybe others will not let it go easily. You, even if he could not fight back at that time, in the future, he will hate you for a lifetime, and even you will pay a heavy price for your open mouth.