Weak, Strong And Wise

 There are five different levels of meat, and people are divided into three or six or nine levels.

The weak are blindly gregarious and continue to perish; the strong get along well and are loyal to their hearts; the wise are good at being alone and strengthen themselves.

Life is very different, and there are always many differences. The way a person interacts with others is the level and height of a person.

The world always regards other people's views of themselves as more important than their own lives.

So they cater in every possible way, forcibly gregarious, and thus lose themselves and cause irreparable harm.

There was a wealthy businessman with two sons in the family, both of whom were at school age, and the wealthy businessman sent the two brothers to the best school in town to study.

When they first entered the classroom, the two of them studied very hard and devoted all their energy to their studies.

The other brothers in the same discipline only know to skip classes and play all day, and never take their studies to heart.

One day late at night, the two brothers were studying in the school, and the same junior brother passed by and said: "The two know that they are studying. It's really out of place. No wonder no one wants to associate with you."

The next day, the elder brother continued to study seriously, but the younger brother mingled with the other seniors and talked about things.

Since then, the junior brothers skipped class and went out to play, and he also went to play. The senior brothers slept lazily, and he also slept with them.

No matter what the brothers do, he participates in it.

Even if I think it’s boring to skip classes to play, I still force myself to actively mingle with everyone in order to prevent everyone from feeling out of group.

However, the long-term playthings lost their ambitions, so that the grades of the brother, who had been excellent in learning, plummeted.

Later, he lost his fighting spirit and dropped out of school at home, doing nothing all day long.

This is the sadness of gregarious people. The more gregarious people are, the more they will lose their thoughts and fighting spirit. This is the foundation that destroys you, which will eventually harm you and make you defeated.

You think you are gregarious, but in fact, you are just being assimilated by mediocrity.

Instead of focusing on improving yourself, the best way to maintain a relationship is to make yourself stronger.

This is the case with the eldest son of a wealthy businessman. The surrounding seniors all go to play, so he studies poetry and books alone, often studying late at night.

The senior brother slept in and skipped class. He still woke up early to study in the morning and studied hard with his husband.

Three years later, his elder brother obtained fame and entered the official career, and his ancestors were glorious.

All things in the world, all living beings, truly intelligent people, focus on their own growth, will not force themselves to be in a group, let alone follow the trend.

With what kind of people, you will have what kind of life.

For the sake of gregariousness and gregariousness, blindly catering to and pleased, wasted time, expended energy, and lost the future. It can be said that the gain is not worth the loss.

Life is short, why force yourself to be in a group, let alone become a weak person who only knows to be in group.

The communication between gentlemen is as plain and comfortable as water, and it feels like a spring breeze. Only this kind of communication will last long.

Just like the strong, they don't deliberately cater to please, let alone alienate at will, but are loyal to their hearts and get along with each other comfortably.

When Zhang Zhidong served as the governor of Hubei, Fu Jun Tan Jixun gave a banquet to congratulate him. Those who came to the banquet were all distinguished officials, and the scene was very grand.

After drinking, Zhang Zhidong and Tan Jixun had a heated discussion about how wide the Yangtze River is:

Tan Jixun said: "The Yangtze River is five miles wide."

Zhang Zhidong denied: "No, it’s seven miles."

The two were blushing, and it was difficult to tell the outcome, so Chen Shuping, the county magistrate of Jiangxia, was ordered to answer.

Chen Shuping didn't dare to refuse, thinking for a moment and said: "The water rises by seven miles, and the water falls by five miles, both adults are right!"

After listening, Zhang Zhidong and Tan Jixun looked at each other and smiled, and they were full of praise for Chen Shuping.

After the banquet, Zhang Zhidong and Tan Jixun said: "We have been with Chen Shuping for many years, and it is still as comfortable as before."

Chen Shuping's few words not only saved the scene, but also protected the faces of the two adults calmly.

The real strong is good at communicative power, speaks comfortably, and does things comfortably.

If it is to cater to any side, you are offending others and creating trouble for yourself.

The communication of the strong does not need to please, does not need to please, or even deliberately maintain.

This kind of relationship is sincere, comfortable, not tiring, and reassuring.

There is a space between closeness, sparseness and closeness; harmony but difference, beauty and commonness, this is the highest level of communication between the strong.

Life is expensive. Don't waste time and energy on ineffective social interaction. Instead of catering to others, it is better to respect your heart and do comfortable things with people who are comfortable.

Zhuangzi believes that walking alone is a supreme state and a symbol of wisdom, which will make people outstanding and powerful.

Enjoy being alone, enrich your heart, and be more successful in yourself.

During the Warring States Period, the king of Chu wanted Zhuangzi to be the prime minister, so he ordered someone to invite him.

The messenger found Zhuangzi and found him leisurely fishing by the lake.

The messenger explained the reason to Zhuangzi, but Zhuangzi told the messenger a story.

Zhuangzi said: "It is said that there is a 3,000-year-old supernatural tortoise in the state of Chu. After its death, the body was placed in a shrine for worship.

You said, for it, is it good to be worshipped after death? Or is it better to live and be free? "

The messenger replied: "Of course it is better to live freely."

Zhuangzi smiled and said: "Go back, I also like to be free."

The messenger had no choice but to go back alone for business.

From then on, Zhuangzi lived a free life. Being alone did not make Zhuangzi feel bored and depressed.

He spent this time studying his own thoughts with great concentration, and later became an important representative of Taoism.

The beast always walks alone, and the cattle and sheep flock.

Going alone is not arrogant or arrogant, nor arrogant, but to keep a sense of clarity in this complicated world.

In a lively gregariousness, you will always lose yourself, lose your heart, and use the will of others to do things, only to become more mediocre.

And only when you are alone can you not be confined by the noise of the outside world to your body and mind.

In order to truly listen to your heart, strengthen your own ideas, do what you want to do, achieve yourself, and make yourself stronger.

Don't be afraid to walk alone, learn to enjoy alone, walking alone is the best moment in life.

Only when a person is alone can he clear the fog, see the truth of life, and become a truly powerful person.

But the world is complicated, and different people and different ways of communication have different results.

The weak force to unite, lose themselves, and plunge themselves into the abyss;

The strong are good at communication, get along well, and make people feel at ease;

Wise people like to walk alone, enrich themselves, and achieve life.

Instead of working hard to get together and assimilate with others, it is better to learn to walk alone, accumulate energy, and shine.