Curiosity Is The Best Trigger To Break The Emotional Comfortable Circle

 People get along with each other, there will always be their own way, a long time on the same person, a long time will form a comfort zone. As long as two people get into the comfort zone, the relationship will be difficult to break again. Even if you have a great emotional breakthrough with her in the future, it is inevitable that you need to break the comfort zone. Success or failure lies in how to break the comfort zone. If you don't want to break the comfort zone, but want to go further, it's basically hard to change.

In real life, how many people's relationships begin with friends, classmates, colleagues and strangers? In these relationships, colleagues, friends and classmates are basically inherent communication identities, and it is often difficult to break this layer of relationship. If we want to further develop into a couple or other relationship, we often need to break this layer of relationship, Make further breakthroughs.

In the above relationships, colleagues, friends and classmates are easy to enter a comfortable emotional zone, because this relationship is the link between each other. Sometimes I always look up but not down. I can't avoid saying hello and communicating. Therefore, if you want to be in love or see people's heart for a long time, you need to do emotional output for a long time. At the same time, you need to gradually break the relationship circle and enter a new level of relationship. So how to break the emotional comfort zone?

1. Don't give each other a sense of security

The reason why people get along with each other in the comfort zone is that the sense of security brought by the relationship can make each other feel at ease to communicate with them, so it forms a sense of security in the relationship. If you want to make a further breakthrough in the relationship, you need to break the sense of security in the communication. Once people fall into a sense of crisis or contradiction in their relationship, they are easy to vacillate, and vacillation may be good or bad.

Therefore, you should make the other party feel that you can give her a sense of security emotionally, rather than in the relationship you don't want. Otherwise, once you give the other party a sense of security in the relationship you don't want, it will be difficult to break this emotional comfort zone in a short time. In the future, when you want to break through a relationship, it may take ten times as much time and energy.

2. Keep enough mystery

It's important to keep a sense of mystery in the relationship between people. As the saying goes, interest is the best teacher, for the feelings, curiosity is the best emotional agent. Once people have a sense of mystery, it's easy to lead to unlimited exploration of people who are interested in you. They always want to know more about you and care about you, so naturally they will have a breakthrough in the relationship.

If people get along with each other, they know everything about you like the back of their hands, and everything is clear, then the result is that there will be few places that they are interested in and care about you, and they may even have a full understanding and interpretation of your behavior without care and care.

Therefore, in the relationship between people, we should maintain a good enough sense of mystery, so that the other party can dig into your flash point, constantly be attracted by your flash point, and become the focus of each other's eyes for a long time, which is very conducive to the breakthrough of the relationship.

3. Dare to speak

In the relationship between people, it is also very important to dare to speak. In the emotional relationship, many people do not dare to speak, very afraid to say the wrong words or wrong, and let the other party have disgust or not like the mood. This is very common in interpersonal communication. Daring to speak doesn't mean that you have to speak frankly. We should make good use of the art of speaking, euphemism or humor. Most people are willing to accept this way. If we speak frankly, it will often hinder face, and the effect will be counterproductive, not only the relationship will deteriorate, Can't further love life, this way to break the comfort zone, should no one like it?

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